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Top 10 Things Queer Men Should Discuss with Their Healthcare Provider
Following are the health issues GLMA&#x;s healthcare providers have identified as most commonly of concern for gay men. While not all of these items apply to everyone, it&#x;s wise to be aware of these issues.
1. Come Out to Your Primary Healthcare Provider
In order to provide you with the best protect possible, your primary nurture provider should know you are gay. Knowing your sexual orientation and sexual behaviors will help your healthcare provider offer the correct preventative screenings, and order the appropriate tests. If your provider does not seem comfortable with you as a lgbtq+ man, find another deliverer. You can consult the LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory for assist finding a provider.
2. Reducing the Risk of Getting or Transmitting HIV
Many men who have sex with men are at an increased risk of getting HIV, but the ability to prevent the acquisition and transmission of HIV has improved drastically in recent years. If you are living with HIV, anti-HIV medications can aide you live a normal lifespan and prevent you from transmitting HIV to your sex partners (Treatment as
Many gay men grew up feeling ashamed of not conforming to cultural expectations about “real boys” or “real men.” Especially during middle and high academy, they may have been bullied or publicly humiliated because of their difference—made to feel like outsiders and not “one of the boys.” They may have found it easier relating to women than men, though they didn’t fully belong to the girl group, either.
Every lgbtq+ man I’ve seen in my practice over the years has had a conflicted, troubled relationship with his own masculinity, often shaping his behavior in destructive ways. Writing for Vice, Jeff Leavell captures the dynamic nicely: “Queer people, especially gay men, are known for dealing with a slew of self-doubts and anxieties in noxious ways. Gay men are liable to undergo incredibly insecure over their masculinity, a kind of internalized homophobia that leads them to idolize 'masc 4 masc', 'gaybros' and [to] shame and oppress femme men.”
Here we observe one of the most common defenses against shame: getting rid of it by offloading or projecting it onto somebody else; in this case, one of those “femme men.” In effect, “masc” men who humiliate “femmes” restate the shame trauma of their
Why Do Gay Men Sound Like ~That~?
An exploration of the gay accent and how it became popularized
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As most people are accustomed to believe, homosexual men have a very “gay” sound when they speak. They might talk in higher pitches and a more melodious groove to their speech. But is the gay accent even real? And if it is, why does it even exist?
In an effort to increase my understanding of this society and how it works, I reached out to Joseph Radice, a linguistics Ph.D. student whose analyze involves LGBTQ allyship.
*Disclaimer
For one, this phenomenon is referred to as “gay speak” to avoid unnecessary stereotyping. According to Radice, linguists often deviate away from the popular assumption that gay men sound more effeminate because not everyone falls into these “boxes.” So, it would be a mistake to try and enforce these tropes on people. Monitoring up on that, Radice also told me about that while this communication can be particularly absorbing to learn about, when in the wrong hands, can be used against the community to discriminate.
What is "gay speak"?
One of the most valuable lessons I learned in this i
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Article by Hugo Mega (edited by Alyssa Lepage)
I used to think that “coming out” was going to be the hardest part of being gay. That, existence free to be me, I could finally prevent pretending. I would be able to drop the heteronormative disguise that I used to wear, to ensure that I belonged and that I felt safe. Little did I know that in the years that followed, more often than not, I would find myself butch-ing up, trying to be more masculine than what I naturally was. How did I find myself here again?
Like walking on thin ice, any misleading move I made, could easily throw me support into a loop of old patterns that condition my ways of existence and behaving without me even noticing it.
Tired of this self-limiting pattern, I decided to confront my beliefs around masculinity. Since then I’ve been engaged in deconstructing my conditioning and notions of what it means to be a man. In the process of deconstructing my beliefs it was tough to avoid one’s possess toxic masculinity. I used to believe that entity gay absolved me from being toxic like many straight man can be, but I was wrong.
In this article I will be reflecting on personal experiences and different p
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