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Looking after your assets: everything you need to know about maintaining a happy, healthy ass
By Emen8, updated 11 months ago in Sex and virtual dating / Sex
Anal sex. It’s probably not a deeply explored topic in the standard birds-and-bees chat.
But just like the rest of your sexy bits, your anus offers a whole wonderful world to travel, and the mechanics are just the beginning. Bottoming can be one of the most intense, intimate, vulnerable and mind-blowing things you can do with another guy. Or it can be average, uncomfortable, embarrassing and very unsatisfying.
The difference can be as simple as arming yourself with the right communication — and, as always, we’ve got your back(side). Read on for the hot take on maintaining a happy, healthy ass, and how to employ it for the leading sex of your life.
1. Get to know the basic anatomy
As you can see from the handy diagram, this area involves several special muscles and sphincters. It sits right behind your prostate and the rest of your sex anatomy, which is why it feels so good when your buddy is inside you. It’s also lined internally with mucosa (a moist, protective membrane) and is very rich in blood vessels
Until recently, if you were looking to hook up on a gay digital dating app like Grindr, you’d enter your sexual preferences as “top” or “bottom.” In a sexual context, bottoming is the act of taking a dick (or a dick-shaped object) in your ass whereas topping implies doing the penetration. When it comes to queer and bi men, a lot of people seem caring of obsessed with operational out who’s a top/giver and who’s a bottom/receiver, but in reality, MSM (men who have sex with men) may undertake both or neither. If you’re comfortable doing both, then you’re “versatile.”
However, if you didn’t prefer anal sex, the option on Grindr used to be: “no anal.” As scornful as that sounds, there simply was no other way to convey that you didn’t want to have penetrative sex but that that wasn’t all there was to sex. But earlier this month, Grindr – a online dating app for queer people – officially introduced “side” as a sexual option on the app, making it easier for many men to finally place a term to what they enjoy in bed.
Coined in 2013 by sex and relationship therapist Joe Kort, who himself is queer and identifies as a side, the word has gained steam only recently. On paper, a side in bed is someone who do
The Gay Butt Doctor Is In to Answer All Your Questions About Keeping Your Ass Happy
Ever since I gave my trusty dildo a chance under quarantine, I’ve grown hysterically concerned with the fitness of my asshole. While I’ve enjoyed giving my sphincter a rest, what if she’s rusty show up the end of quarantine?
To better understand my sexual health and how I might approach fucking in an era of encounter masks ya and temperature controls, I called up a bottoming expert for advice.
Evan Goldstein is the founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a queer men’s anal and sexual health clinic with offices in New York and L.A. I first heard about Goldstein through NYC’s bottom whisper network (i.e., my slutty friends). He’s a pioneer of anal botox, known for treating anal injuries and advocating for bottoming without pain.
What started as a conversation with the Good Physician (No, not Freddie Highmore) about specializing in same-sex attracted men’s sexual health loosened into a top-to-bottom discussion spanning the dangers of over-douching to why everyone ought to try fisting.
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What allows me the freedoms to provide medical and surgical care to our community is having an amazing pa
Would you describe yourself as douche-curious? Perhaps you’ve been douching for a while but are looking for pointers. However seasoned you are at putting things up your butt, there’s always something new to learn! So we’ve lay together a beginner’s manual to anal douching with everything you need to know when you yearn to start squirting down below. 😉
What is anal douching?
Douching is the behave of shooting a jet of warm water or a saline solution into the rectum to immaculate it out before sex. Douching uses several types of devices to attain this, each referred to as a ‘douche’. We’ll cover these in more detail below.
Some people may instead use what’s recognizable as an enema for douching. These are medical devices designed to relieve constipation and are not recommended for douching, as they often come with a medicated solution to soften stools or exploit a far greater volume of liquid than is required when preparing for anal sex.
Should you douche?
That’s up to you! Whether you douche or not is entirely up to the individual.
Many guys fancy to douche because it reassures them of no surprises when it comes to hooking up. But for those who save a fibre-rich diet and drink plenty of
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